The Quiet Warrior Podcast with Serena Low

41. How to Outsmart Narcissists (with Chelsey Brooke Cole)

Serena Low, Introvert Coach for Quiet Achievers and Quiet Warriors

If you know someone who acts as if it’s always someone else’s fault when things don’t go their way, who believes that others are responsible for their happiness and wellbeing, that they deserve special treatment because they are better than others, listen on, because our guest today is a coach who specializes in narcissistic abuse and the bestselling author of If Only I’d Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth.


Top 10 highlights from my conversation with Chelsey Brooke Cole:

  • What makes someone a narcissist and what are the red flags to watch for if you suspect you’re dealing with one
  • What a narcissist wants most, from you and others
  • When does narcissistic behaviour become abusive
  • Why it can take a long time to seek help for narcissistic abuse
  • Why you may be more vulnerable to narcissistic abuse if you are an introvert, empath or highly sensitive person
  • Four things you should never do when you’re around a narcissist
  • The best things you can do to protect yourself against a narcissist
  • Is narcissism a mental health disorder?
  • Two key learnings from Chelsey’s book If Only I’d Known
  • Chelsey’s message to all who are experiencing narcissistic abuse


About Chelsey Brooke Cole:

Chelsey Brooke Cole is a psychotherapist and certified partner trauma therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse and relational trauma. She is the best-selling author of If Only I’d Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth. Chelsey’s work has been featured in several media outlets, including USA Today, Psychology Today, FOX 26 Houston, and WKRN News 2. Chelsey speaks at HR and counseling conferences on narcissism in the workplace, how to communicate with difficult people, and effective therapeutic strategies for narcissistic abuse survivors. Chelsey’s content provides support to thousands of narcissistic abuse survivors each day through her thriving online community.

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This episode was edited by Aura House Productions